I do think it is okay to have opposite sex friends. So no I wouldn't do that, but I would have an opposite sex friend even in a committed relationship if it was okay with all parties involved. A know a few guys who don't do that. We LIKE being home together. So..he and I need to discuss all this, and if he's not willing to change, I may have to walk. Have a little faith. A few slurred hey baby I'm OKs are not too much to ask. So no - when we were dating I did go out dancing quite a bit with my girlfriends - and of course we were hit on - but I never went home with anyone or to anyone other than my hubs. He goes to bed without me (20 f) now and we sleep back to back. Granted we shouldn't keep people on a leash and there are a lot of things going on with a LDR but how can you truts someone like that? I arrived alone and I left alone. Im in a long distance relationship myself, like we're in two different continents, it kind of ***** but its cool at the same time! He missed work yesterday because he got drunk and another thing is that he didn't call me all day. If you talk with your boyfriend about how you feel, maybe he can assuage your fears. My boyfriend wants his friend, should we break up? Or am I just being silly? Dont fall for this my life is in the hole either. Now I am talking about a friend that I talk on the phone to and interact regularly with. and i understand exactly what youre saying but when you do talk to him you have to have to bring up his drinking and your concern of him not calling. 05-17-2012, 01:53 PM steve1282 : Location: Dallas. i have a hard time trusting he's not hooking up with another girl..i have talked to him before how i wish he would call me, but we always end up fightingwhere do i go from here..is this a big deal or something not to be concerned about. To us, our family is our priority and they come first. I am in a similar situation right now and I'm pulling my hair out. If it doesn't work, try a new combination. But we can do that because we are older and have an understanding of what we want out of life. Commitment has nothing to do, with restricting another person. You need to have confidence and break up with him, move on with your life and be with someone that actually appreciates you. But I get it. Luckily, we have every other weekend to ourselves when our kids are at our ex's house. If it was a few hours I'd be fine but he goes off grid for like 10/12 hours at a time and then texts to say his phone died, or he left it at home etc should I be questioning this? registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without Sorry if I'm completely out of line, it's J. that I've known so many people who've ruined their relationships over situations like this. Best Sex Positions to Improve Your Sex Life. Check out Romper's new video series, Bearing The Motherload, where disagreeing parents from different sides of an issue sit down with a mediator and talk about how to support (and not judge) each others parenting perspectives. NO. If you're secure and you have a personality, you should largely be able to fend for yourself at a family function. Then ask yourself if he really cares what you do. It's okay to relax. People go to bars..why? You know the one that is filled with mostly guys, laid back and where everyone knows everyone and if you don't you will by the time you walk out and people cheer when you walk in the door? What does it mean when a man call & text you several times every day eventh My Boyfriend doesn't like if I call him from his name. "I guess it depends from one man to another. A group of people going out, no problem. . He might also be addicted to such acts, or have a compulsion to self-soothe' through intercourse. Not just change the rule without saying something and then she can choose to keep playing or quit. My husband likes to have a beer or two so he does go to the local dive bars with the guys after work. I have talked to too many girls and guys that bitterly recalled how one drink too many let their inhibitions lower enough that they got too huggy and hormones took over ending a relationship. Do I do that without my SO? I'm a very sporadic patron of this bar. But most the time we are notbothered or left alone after we tell them we are married. Night after Friday night, he'd ask about my week, make jokes with me during lulls in the bar rush, and never charge me for my vodka buzz. But even if that's your case, can you honestly say you don't have a hand in it? evenworse BTW I can say that the majority of women I know are attracted to women as well (even if they don't act on it) so should they be banned from everyone=)Advertisementif(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[320,50],'mamapedia_com-box-3','ezslot_4',679,'0','0'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-mamapedia_com-box-3-0');if(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[320,50],'mamapedia_com-box-3','ezslot_5',679,'0','1'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-mamapedia_com-box-3-0_1'); .box-3-multi-679{border:none !important;display:block !important;float:none !important;line-height:0px;margin-bottom:5px !important;margin-left:auto !important;margin-right:auto !important;margin-top:5px !important;max-width:100% !important;min-height:50px;padding-bottom:20px !important;padding-top:20px !important;text-align:center !important;}. If I wanted to go out to a bar with a bunch of girlfriends my husband would tell M. to have a good time and same for himthey guys go for a drink after work, sure join them (J. let M. know so I don't have dinner waiting). Honestly..what i'm going to start doing is when I know hes going out to drink, you should just play his game..don't text/ call him..let him come to youif he does. A spouse can interact with the world and other people. I feel any interactions should be allowed but also feel that if you're in a committed relationship and someone has an issue with a particular person your relationship comes first obviously and while you won't be "controlled" by your spouse you should definitely take their opinion into account and compromise and adjust behavior accordingly. But that's J. M.! Anyone that cant handle that isnt ready for a real relationship. The fastest way to see a mans true colours if he does run, even better. to M. if there is an air of "i am free, i do what i want, hey you're interesting, i'll talk to you!" I guess I J. don't see how going to a bar solo and getting into situations where there's lots of alcohol, music and men are hitting on you/questioning your relationship can be very good at all for your current relationship. my heart goes out to u, its so hard coz if u keep bringin up the subject u dont want to come across as clingy or needy, im in the same boat myself and i just confronted him lastnight, i ended up finishin it, which now i regret, if u intend to bring it up again with him be ready for the consequences. It makes me panic. And if I'm going for a walk, to the grocery store, the gym, or out with my best friend, I make sure he knows where I'm going, when I'm going, and when I'm on my way home. xx. A few times a year I'll go out dancing with my friends (my husband despises dancing) and once in a blue moon I'll meet someone in a bar to chat. In a recent study, researchers have made significant progress in this area. All about the power play. Trust is arguably . It premiered on TNT on July 12, 2010, and set a record as cable TV's most watched commercial-supported series launch. What I'd really prefer though is to go out with a few drinks with HIM! SO to your question. Gd luck to everyone in the same situation and i hope you are stronger than me when you bite the bullet and call it a day!Please dont msg anything horrible back, i need support not a ribbing! I've seen a lot of posts on here recently about whether its ok for a married or committed person to go to lunch/bar with single person of the opposite sex (or same gender depending on preference) and it had M. wondering if you guys/girls ever go to a bar or an establishment where other singles are and talk to new people? I don't control my husband. maybe get some counseling or something before you make a mistake and let your insecurities get in the way. To use this example: "I don't want to be . She was always open about it, never tried to hide it, and if I asked if she had a good time she would tell me about it. before we were married my wife went out with her friends every couple of weeks to the bar seen. My boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me a By entering this site you declare No. How do I know, bad breakup. Started Saturday at 12:43 AM, By .. ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, 21 hours ago, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:16 PM, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:24 PM, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:29 PM, By We don't forbid each other from seeing anyone. So I spend quite a lot of time with people who are not part of my nuclear family. My husband knows how I am with and with out ( I act the same way no matter what) him and he has no problem with it. She may be looking for love or just hungry for attention. I see people there I know, sometimes men, sometimes J. the servers. You get anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you're worried he's cheating, or that you aren't good enough and he'll find someone better. First of all, guys NEED this time to well, do what guys do. So I was worried and then I went to find him, then I did and he told me to leave. You have no clue what rules the other person thinks are in play. Nearly everyone is guilty of giving their phone or other electronics too much attention from time to time, but if your partner is always so entrenched in what's going on elsewhere, it could be because they're no longer invested in what's going on between the two of you. I'm generally surprised by how many people are against interactions with the gender you're attracted to. As social media continues to grow in popularity, more and more people are turning to platforms like TikTok for mental health advice. i dont really know how to feel about this. They are in a long distance relationship and that's not about sitting at home, missing and texting each other 24/7, gosh. So would this be not allowed in your relationship? Just calming say you will be "going out tonight/the weekend" for some fun with friends, he can enjoy himself with his. Emotional or physical affairs are not okay in my book. Naturally, the latter should raise more eyebrows. Anyway, to each his own regarding going out to a bar with or without our SO. If you try to control things he will be running for the hills. IMO, this is one of those make or break moments of a relationship. It can feel like a never-ending cycle of disappointment and rejection, leaving you wondering if you'll ever find a meaningful connection. 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